Sunday, June 27

从剪头发联想起。。。


这是媛媛和爸爸第一次同一时间在同一间理发店剪头发!

其实,我早就应该带媛媛来这些比较平民化的理发店剪头发。她小时候害怕剪头发,我们就带她到亲子的专门理发店去剪发。现在,她不害怕了,我应该在档次上“退而求其次”。

这不是什么了不起的举动。也不是什么非常朴实的生活习惯。但是,我们决定要从生活中小小小小的事情,一点一滴做起,培养孩子朴素和刻苦耐劳的精神。

为什么有这样的想法呢?

早些年媛媛还小的时候,我的一些朋友告诉我,说她们的孩子不肯到没有冷气的咖啡店或小贩中心用餐。严重的话还会闹脾气或啼哭抗议。我暗暗翻了个白眼,叹一口气,认为都是我的朋友们把孩子宠坏了。

最近,当我们说要去咖啡店的时候,媛媛竟然也说:“我不要去没有aircon的!!!!”

我对我之前翻的白眼感到汗颜、羞耻、抱歉!

我们不是不能负担冷气食阁的用餐费。我们不是不知道时代已经在改变。我们不是不知道小孩其实都会选择比较舒适的环境。

但是,如果我们一味的对他们的抗议让步,让他们有最好的享受,身为父母的我们在传达一个怎样的讯息啊?

对我来说,我要我的孩子能吃苦。我要我的小孩能适应环境。我要我的小孩能知足。我要我的小孩能谦逊。这些品德会跟随她一辈子。我愿意她成为吃得苦中苦的人上人。

当然我不会刻意给她苦头吃。但是,如果我和她爸爸决定了要到没有冷气的地方用餐,就算她哭泣抗议,我们也坚持不会改变主意。

是不是到没有冷气的地方吃顿饭就会培养她适应环境的性格?我们不知道。但是,我们觉得如果一直都舒适惯了,也许将来她会吃更多的苦头。就好像我们相信适当的体罚孩子会让她有更坚强的心理建设,让她面对人生更大的挫折。

当然,有些父母愿意给孩子最好的物质享受。每个父母都有自己的想法和出发点,都是为自己的孩子好。我完全没有意见。

嗯,只是简单剪一个头发,我也想太多了。

8 voices:

ariescovis said...

你好~
我很赞同你的说法,我们家也不过是个小小康之家,没有多余的钱做些奢侈的动作,所以我很注意小孩子的要求。

Samantha said...

Hi Angie.

I agree with what you say. My nephew is one of the kids you have mentioned. whenever we mentioned to go coffeeshop, he will refuse and start throwing tantrums. Worse thing is it applies to food courts as well as he only prefers restaurants!! It all sums up to the family going to restaurants most of the time. Recently his younger sister has started this habit as well. Yes, we can afford but this is not the type of values we would like to pass to the next generation. Which is why for my own kid, I would insist that we dine at coffeeshops and foodcourts and restuarants are occasional visits. So I am glad to a certain extent that my son is pretty ok in this area.

sherlyn said...

Hi Angie,

I can't believe this. I was just lecturing my boy just now. He always wanted a ruler that can fold so that when he want to draw a long line, he can extend the ruler. I told him a short ruler can do the same thing and he say "不過很辛苦“。
Me and dh definitely agree to what you have said, and yes, I want our kids to be able to take abit or more hardships.

雅 said...

启发自我反省的一篇文章。我是个大小孩,发现自己的开销越来越大。是时候好好反省反省一番。

Aces Family said...

Hi angie,

Agreed with your thinking. It's the value that we want to cultivate into our children.

We always make it a point for them to try different level of enjoyment and they will appreciate what they have more.

Thanks for sharing...

Angie said...

Dear 靓师奶, Samantha, Sherlyn,雅and Asteethank you for your comments.:)

happypig said...

绝对同意。

孩子永远都不会明白什么是值得或不值得的。他们心理只有我要跟我不要。

价值观就是从这里一点一滴灌输的。

快乐妈妈 said...

中国人的说法是,女儿要富养。从小让她知道名牌用名牌见惯优雅生活,长大了她才不会贪慕虚荣。如果是男孩就应该从小多些吃苦和磨练。