I do notice that I am getting more impatient with Jaimie lately, who is a-little-crankier-than-usual.
Nowadays she is into whining and pretending to cry as a way to protest. The whining part gets me in my nerves and the most convenient way for me to react is to shout at her and asked her to shut up. If she doesn't stop her nonsense in 5 seconds' time, I will be so tempted to whack her with my hand. And sometimes I did. Clement will be very patient trying to talk sense to Jaimie and I will snap at him and ask him why is he spoiling his daughter.
For the past few nights, Jaimie hasn't been sleeping too well. She would cry in the middle of the night. I asked her a few standart questions like, do you want to go to the toilet? Do you want milk? If the answers are negative, I will bark at her and ask her to go back to sleep. While Clement will be the one who is very patiently rocking Jaimie and consoling her, I will turn my body to backface them and cover my ears with my pillows.
I feel bad, actually.
And I am truly appreciative Jaimie's very patient daddy. Clement has always been the very patient one when it comes to handling Jaimie.
I asked Clement how does he manage to keep his cool with all the whining and crying. He said there was no reason to be angry with a child who didn't do anything wrong deliberately. That sounds very logical to me. And I am also thankful that Clement is also very patient with an impatient wife. He never snaps at me or reprimanded me for being "nasty". Instead, he just took over the situation so that I have some space to cool down. It was yesterday when I saw him lying on the bed, dozing off before Jaimie did in the afternoon that I realised how tired he was handling the 2 crazy girls at home.
My new year resolution: BE A MORE PATIENT MOMMY.
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Angie, you are not the only one leh...I am an impatient mummy too...always threw my temper if I cant control my boys, esp my 2nd one.
Looks like we must 'mediate' to calm ourselves down...hubby always me to 'breathe in breathe out' to cool myself ;p
We grow and learn together ya!
Totally understand how you feel. Sometimes I also very tempted to smack ez when he tries to throw tantrum or pretends to cry.
But after sometimes, I do agree with what clement did. Talking to them patiently and firmly is more effective. :D
Don't give up!
Dear Angie, you are very lucky to have Clement being the patient father and husband.
All of us learn from each other when comes to parenting our child..it is a long journey..a way of managing our family..
We are all learning as a parent, don't we? :) Let all learn to be more patient with our kids! Jiayou :)
The truth is you are not the only one. I'm like that to my kids but others it's different. He always said my hand is bend outwards not inwards. If you get what i means.
He's able to talk nicely to them. I realise cos he don't face them 24hrs and to him they are kids and still learning.
While I face them every hrs I know their tricks and styles thus hv less patient for their tricks.
Hi, chance upon your blog. A very interesting blog you have...
I can understand why it's not very easy to control our temper towards our kiddo at times. I guess all mothers are in a very tedious learning phase now :)
Angie, I can understand your feeling cos sometime Elvina will also behaves the same whenever we don't gives in to her. I realised the more I tried to talk to her, the louder she cry.
There was a period of time whenby I just simply ignore her and then my maid will calm her down n talk to her patiently n later asks Elvina to apologise.
I felt very very bad cos I simply choose to ignore the little girl. I guess ignoring her is worse than throwing temper, right!
I realised my mistake very soon and now also trying to be more patient with her, especially with her daddy not around her most of the time.
that's why the 2 of you are couple mah.... opposite attracts! *wink*
We work together, ok?
I will send you daily smses to remind us both to be more patient and less 'hot' tempered.
I used to be impatient, it took me a long time to mellow down a bit. Still impatient now, but slightly better. Don't feel bad. Take it easy and as your gal grows older, it will be easier.
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