Sunday, June 8

济济一床

媛媛从小就跟我们一起睡。

当她大概7个月大时,我们就买了一张小垫褥给她,让她睡在我们的床边。每次一翻身就可以看到孩子熟睡的脸庞,心里满满的都是幸福。

搬家时,尽管媛媛还不到2岁,我们还是训练她自己一个人睡在她自己的房间。她也非常乐意,也非常得意。我们在松了一口气的同时,也有新的问题。因为她睡在隔壁房间,晚上如果啼哭的话,我要是熟睡了就要很久才能听到。于是,那几个月,我整个晚上根本就是竖起耳朵浅睡。一听到她的哭声或叫声,我就立刻跳下床跑到隔壁去。有时,我故意问她到爸爸妈妈的房间睡好不好?到爸爸妈妈的床睡好不好?她都毅然决然地拒绝。前2个月老公出差时,我还“偷偷”等她睡熟了之后把她抱到我的房间,但是她一发现自己不在自己的房间和自己的床上,就会很生气,半梦半醒之间也提出抗议,要我立刻把她送回她的地盘。

媛媛上个月开始上托儿所。从那天开始到现在,她还是没有安全感,到了晚上还会恶梦连连。我连续几个晚上都在跑进跑出,根本没有睡觉。于是就把她抱到我们的床,让她躺在我和老公之间。这样,她一来睡得比较安稳,二来惊吓起来时,我也可以立刻安抚她。

“请神容易送神难”。现在,她已经鹊巢鸠占,把我们的床“三分天下”。她当然是曹操,占领的地盘最大。我是名副其实的“东吴”,占地最小,可是最方便跳下床泡奶递水。

或许有人觉得我们应该训练小孩再独立一点,或许有人觉得这不是长久之计。但是,我们一直认为,孩子能在你身边躺多久呢?跟孩子这样互动的时候,能多长久?每次一翻身就看见孩子天使般熟睡的模样,我们就觉得心里的幸福已经满满地溢到整张床上。

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stardust said...

Vincent is also sleeping in his own room. For me, I pat him to sleep there. You know, he has two mattresses become a mega-sized queen bed on the floor.

Initally when he started childcare, he also have nightmares at night but now no more so you just have to wait out. Sometimes he fall sick or in strange bad mood wake up he will also shout for me. I will also do "shuttle run" to and fro our rooms. At times I just sleep besides him on his mega-mattres after re-pat him back to sleep.

It is good of Jaimie to want to sleep in her own room too. You can consider to buy another single-sized mattress to bunk in with her in times of need so that you do not have to do too much "shuttle runs" or move her to your bed.

Joyce Long said...

Actually you are true..how long can the kid be with you..S/he will be one day be ready to be independent and want to sleep one their own. Used to think sleep alone is one of the factor to be independent but somehow it is not for us anymore..

wolfgirl said...

I have no choice but to sleep with RR in the same room....

She sleeps in 'mei mei bed' while I sleep in 'mama bed' which is in fact a pull-out bed...

She will, without fail, get down from her bed and snuggle next to me in the middle of the night.

It feels so sweet and so warm...but i also feel that it is making her cling onto me and develop overdependence on me.

I wish to get our own home in a few years' time and then she will have her own bedroom....

(any contribution for funds???heehee)

Shiny Stars said...

Hee my 3 boys still sleeping with me n hubby on our bed, so 5 in a bed!!!

I will really miss this co-sleeping with them too when they grow up, though me and hubby are always victims of their 'powerkicks'!

LZmommy said...

My kids have been sleeping on their own since they were 2 months old. At times, the younger one do come to our room. Sometimes I do envy those that sleep with their kids but hub and I would like to have time to ourselves too.

Do cherish the times :) Don't bother what other think :) It will come a time that she would want to go back to her room :)

Aces Family said...

hi Angelcow,

Till now, i still sleep with my 2A's..hee : P

My DH has his undisturbed sleep as his work is too stressful,so better to let him has good rest.

Like you, i like to see my children when they are soundly asleep, i felt so much love just by looking at them.. : P

cheers,
astee

Hann Hann said...

My Ah-yi is 20 years old and still sleeps on my grandparents' bed.