Thursday, June 26

妈妈的心得 之四

很久以前写过妈妈的心得之一之二之三

今天颇有感触,要写我的第四个心得。

前一阵子有点苦恼,朋友的孩子大多数都开始断断续续告别纸尿片了。有些小朋友十八个月大就能够不用尿片了,媛媛2岁了还在不醒悟地随意大小便。我们都很不明白,这么一个会说话的孩子,为什么就是不肯(还是不会?)说自己要大小便呢?虽然有点纳闷,但是也不是非常着急。

最近,媛媛终于学会上厕所了,慢慢地脱离了纸尿布。我们都非常高兴。唯一的苦恼,是在逛街的时候她常常出其不意地说:“妈妈,小便便!快点快点!”我老人家就得风驰电掣地把她带到洗手间,用迅雷不及掩耳的速度把她的裤子和纸尿裤扯下来,然后在半秒的时间之内把她放到马桶上,看见她安然无恙地小便,我才敢喘一口气。

令我们惊讶的是,她现在连晚上在睡梦中都能够告诉我们她要上厕所!现在她睡在我们中间当第三者。当她模模糊糊闭着眼睛说:“小便便!”时,我苦命的老人家又得风驰电掣地翻身起床,用迅雷不及掩耳的速度把她的睡裤和纸尿裤扯下来,然后在一秒的时间之内冲到厕所把她放到马桶上,看见她安然无恙地小便,我才敢喘一口气。已经连续好多个晚上,媛媛都没有尿在纸尿片上了。我看我可以做一个表,记录"Days without incident"。哈哈!

从这个训练孩子上厕所的事件,我又联想到:孩子有他自己的时间来掌握技某些技能。虽然我们要帮忙和鼓励他,但是也无需操之过急。跑接力赛都有一段路是传棒子的。只要孩子是在正常的范围之内,我们就让他找到自己的步伐吧。

孩子,妈妈依旧为你学习到的每一个技能喝彩。妈妈在尊重你的步伐时,仍然会给你加油和掌声。宝贝,in your own timing, please. I love you.

3 voices:

LZmommy said...

I felt the same way too when my kids yet to go diaperless. Yup! :) When the child is ready, he/she is ready :)

Well Done Jae! :)

Anonymous said...

I read all your 4 "xin de" & i totally agree with you. Actually, they make me feel better, cos'

(1) i dun force my kids bcos i dun hv the patience to force.

(2) I don't compare my kids with others bcos we parents are not outstanding in the 1st place.

(3) I cheered for them for every milestone achieved cos i get excited easily. =p

(4) i let them achieve their next milestone at their own timing cos' i dun put in much efforts in training them anyway...

I didn't realise what I've been doing/not doing can actually turn out to be "xin de". =)

Clement said...

心得 are simply discoveries and lessons learnt from our live's experience. You've had similar experiences before and now that you're more cognizant of these experiences and revelations, these would be your 心得 too lor. :)